According to researches, divorce occupies one of the highest places on a scale of stress. Divorce is a dramatic situation in family life when the developed relations of couple collapse, when two persons as a result of family conflicts or awareness of emotional estrangement decide to leave fall in order to live separately or resume searches of personal happiness. The situation of divorce is interfaced to heavy emotional feelings, need of separation of property, and if the couple has children it painfully strikes and them also.
Influence of Divorce
Divorce has a set of effects on family structure, especially concerning children. After the divorce of parents, partners live separately, and one of parents receives primary guardianship. Adoptive parents often marry the divorced spouses, which further change the family structure. After the divorce, the reorganization stage, which includes difficult process of specification of new borders, begins. All family members experience divergences and contradictions, which accompany the process of divorce and complicate negotiations within a family during this stage. Loss of one of the parents, many changes in family functioning, and tension affecting each parent and his or her ability to perform parental functions, make the contribution to affect children. The more the nonresident parent is excluded from a family, the more is the potential for family dysfunction (Stahl, 2007).
Divorce also has a great influence on the children of parents, which came to this decision. After they got out of the stress and trauma caused by divorce of their parents, children tend to become emotionally stronger. In broken families, children usually become independent and more stable to different life-changing events. Besides, before and even after the process of divorce, parents use to divide valuables and all other owned things. After divorce, family relationships usually are worsened. Parents face psychological, emotional, and financial troubles while their children feel rejected, unguarded, and incapacitated. Thus, children, due to their vulnerability, began to reject family and depart from it (Stahl, 2007).
On the one hand, if the family after divorce is lead by a mother, she faces a wide range of problems. They must bring up their children, set down their life and future alone. Therefore, single women usually fall into the trap of the financial crisis. The divorced mothers usually are limited in spending excessive money on such basic need of their children as clothing, food, school fees, etc., trying to maintain the previous standards of life. A great majority of single mothers face the problems concerning the studies and proper medical facilities of their children. They have difficulties with the payment of school fees. All mentioned difficulties are caused by the loss of support from the husband and economic helplessness. After divorce, mothers tend to become the primary wage earners. In other words, the responsibilities of their ex-husbands are put on their shoulders (Kotwal, Prabhakar, 2009).
On the other hand, divorced non-residential fathers usually face the problems connected with the disability to contact with their children. Nonresident fathers also can be limited in relationships with their children under the influence of existence of the new stepfather in his ex-family. Moreover, frequent conflicts between mothers and nonresidents fathers may also estrange fathers from the whole family. The feelings of estrangement can lead divorced fathers to stress and loss of their dignity. Due to the abovementioned feelings divorced fathers may suffer form career and financial crisis. In addition, divorced fathers may also have problems with starting new relationships with women and alone forever (King, 2006).
Taking into account all abovementioned information one can say that divorce has a long-term influence on the whole family. The majority of divorced parents can not deal with emotional problems and fix the normal life for a very long time. In such families, children have to support their parents prematurely, and being responsible for the parents states they also have to deal with other problems. In such cases, their own emotional and psychological states and development are exposed to the threat.
King, V. (2006). The antecedents and consequences of adolescents' relationships with stepfathers and nonresidents fathers. Journal of Marriage and Family, 68(4). Retrieved from http://www.questia.com/read/1P3-1169212071/the-antecedents-and-consequences-of-adolescents-relationships
Kotwal, N., Prabhakar, B. (2009). Problems faced by single mothers. Journal of Social Sciencies, 21(3), 197-204.
Stahl, P. M. (2007). Parenting after divorce: Resolving conflicts and meeting your children's needs (2nd ed.). Atascadero, California: Impact Publishers.